Our language is so rich, many words and even more meanings. However, it seems to me that our actions are narrowed. We talk more and do less. Or maybe we do, but how, to whom and for whom?
Well, I always ask so many questions and I'm comforted that it's good, because I think. This is probably one of the biggest advantages that a person has over others and that he (can) use. A thought is like air, the more you breathe it, the more you feel it and the more you need it.
However, our thinking is not encouraged enough from the earliest childhood. Parents serve us too much and often do not leave enough space for children to think for themselves. They try to explain everything, because this is how parents perceive their role, they are human beings. Later, the same opinion is served to us by schools, hospitals, companies and corporations, political parties, churches, the media... all to the grave. And how much money, so much music... the strongest prevail and opinions are bought with money.
On Saturday, I was at the First Montenegrin table tennis championship for people with disabilities, organized by the "Luča" table tennis club. A girl who was in the audience approached me, Sofia, I estimate she is between three and four years old. She did not answer me how old she was, instead of an answer I heard a word that would have been forbidden to Sofia from the elders. Sofia felt free to say it. Sofia asked questions, she wanted to know a lot. I enjoyed talking to her, she was very sweet and nice. Her questions were precious and it was difficult to answer them, because I wanted to bring her as close as possible to what we were talking about, to talk to her on an equal footing, to make her understand how wonderful it is to be a child and for me to return to that the most carefree and harmless period.
However, our story was interrupted by someone, I assume it was her mother, maybe an aunt, whoever, someone who had the role of a teacher, even today. However, the termination was somewhat insidious, manipulative and I would say violent. The lady took the little girl under the pretext that she was going to demolish something, and it wasn't exactly that we were close to the object to be demolished. And if we did, the lady had other options, for example: to find out what we were talking about, then to evaluate and decide whether it was harmful to her child, to tell me to pay attention so that Sofia doesn't break something, to stay with she takes care of us herself... She had so many options, however, she chose an insidious way to save Sofia from me, differently. The line of least resistance and conformity is the best way to escape from reality. The lady forgot that she came to a meeting where there were no less than 30 people with disabilities; and those with "eyes or visible" and those with "invisible" disabilities and that this is precisely the opportunity for Sofia to become more tolerant, to get used to being "different" from the majority; to accept... that one day at school, at work, in the neighborhood, in the family there is no problem with the fact that there are those who are "different", "just physically different". An opportunity for Sofia to learn to ask, to continue thinking and thinking...
Sofia is only one, and there are plenty of children who ask like Sofia. Sofia asked, she wasn't laughing, she wasn't mocking, she wasn't scared, she just wanted to know. But there are many parents and elders who react in the same way when their child sees a disabled child. There are those who, if they notice a child or a person with a disability "in time", turn their own to the other side, so that they don't even see that "different thing that appeared", or when the children react faster and already see and ask, then the parents advocate for them, they keep silent, pull, and sometimes even hit because, I guess, they did something ugly and bad, something they shouldn't and shouldn't do. Disability remains a taboo for children, something they can't and shouldn't ask about, can't even find out about. Or they find out, but superficially and wrongly.
Parents are afraid, and children remain foreign and unknown, not only in childhood but often for a long time after childhood.
Even in books, they don't have the opportunity to see anything that is not average, majority and "socially acceptable". Education "didn't manage" either. And so in order, all structures remain closed, withdraw into themselves, hide their fears...
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Need, use, evil and abuse, so many things are created out of nothing... and start from need. Needs that are never completely satisfied, that's why other actions start and grow. I also started this writing out of a need... a need not to keep my thoughts inside and stop thinking, a need not to drown in the mass that drags everything with it and swallows it differently. It is important to overcome fear, vanity and suppress the need to rule over yourself and others. To free yourself, to admit to yourself and others both pain and happiness and emotion and opinion... don't manipulate. Here, too, I felt the need to write something that a few days ago I did not say and wrote at the moment that was the most appropriate for it, and not to the lady who was with Sofia.
A few days ago, the lady pushed Sofia away from me, because of the difference of a few tens of centimeters between me and adults, my peers, older and younger than me, just because of the difference that can be seen with the eyes. And in this situation, the eyes give orders to the brain and reason, not the other way around.
And the lady would not so quickly remove Sofia from some Marina who propagates a certain religion, church, politics, nation, race, language and culture... and Sofia will listen to that in kindergarten, school, in society, at work, from media, different individuals and groups. The lady will not even be able to find out what Sofia saw and heard, because it will all be swallowed too quickly by Sofia or that Sofia.
He will not be able to protect Sofia from various abuses. Sofia will choose anyway when she grows up, the lady's influence will be less and less. And Sofia will join a group, belong to someone, because it is impossible to stand out and isolate yourself from everything and everyone.
And so it is with all children, and even us adults are not bypassed by evil(u)needs. People are controlled by government, opinion is controlled by power and money, media is controlled by politics and so on. For days we receive information about free, semi-free and non-free. There are some that we just forget are among us and they are brought back to us again for the sake of spinning the public and controlling opinion. This is how the President of the country appears in the media before every election, makes statements as if he is thinking, asks questions, answers, because he still hasn't resented the people enough, so he should be used. They revive him periodically every time, and send him to the chambers again.
And this is not the case only with him, it is also the case in smaller and smaller pores of society, in less influential ones. So around the third of December - the International Day of Persons with Disabilities, fossils come to life, feel the need, wake up, appear in some media, at some round table and die again during the year, because they have long been used and abused, and they are less and less objective to us. needed.
And that's how politicians remember children before every election, so they visit them in some institution, school... I read tonight that members of the Women's Alliance of the Democratic Party of Socialists in Herceg Novi visited "residents at the Day Center for Children with Special Needs in Igalo. On that occasion, they spent part of the day at the Center, in the company of children, and got acquainted with the work of this important institution." I could not help but react, "that these are not wards, but beneficiaries, because children are also individuals in their own right. They should be respected!" and it is best to protect them from ourselves before, during and after the elections. Don't just remember children with disabilities for a moment and spend a period of the day with them, bring them sweets and toys and caress them periodically, as needed. Not satisfying the constant need for power over children and over children. And it's not just the Democratic Party of Socialists and their Women's Alliance that does it, all political parties do it, as well as some other social structures through children, through the elderly, through those who are endangered during the year, and one day we remember them as they should too to live proudly. And the saddest thing is that we are all at risk. And so overnight we accept everything, different from us, because they are alive and we need them at some point.
And above the surface, when you scratch a little deeper censorships are always there for a different look and for a different opinion.
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