The next time you get really pissed off, remember this text. It talks about optimists and those who are... not. Benefits of an optimist:
- solve problems and tasks more easily
- they are favorites in society
- they make new friends easily
- they view negative situations as challenges
- they perceive people and life more positively
Sounds good, right? Well, who wouldn't want to be an optimist when optimism in every aspect of life brings success, satisfaction and happiness. However, optimism as a state is not possible to live 365 days a year, and it is perfectly fine to act as a pessimist sometimes. But if you consider yourself a pessimist, which means that you most often view yourself and the world negatively, here's how you can allow yourself to change.
How to practice optimism?
The starting point is reality. Whatever is happening to you and however frightening it may be for you, just stop for a moment and answer the following questions.
- is this situation fatal for me? Does my life go on despite my situation?
- is she really (realistically) that scary or is it just me who perceives her that way?
- would this current situation be equally terrifying and ...(give your friend's name) ? How would he deal with what was happening right now?
- Is there a solution to the given situation?
- can I solve it myself or do I need help?
- is this situation expected?
When you see the situation more clearly, you will be able to look for a solution not from the point of view of a pessimist but of an optimist. So, what counts here is not how you feel about the situation or problem, but what is really the reality and what is the nature of the problem. The essence of the problem is that it forces us to do something new in order to master new skills. If your problem repeats itself, it is obvious that you have not successfully mastered the assigned task!
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