19 psychological tricks that really work

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Never start a request with the words "can you" because the other person may assume that it is a theoretical question. For example, avoid questions like "Can you call the neighbors?" because the answer could be "Theoretically I can, but I didn't agree to it". If you want to be sure that your request will be fulfilled, it is better to say "Please call the neighbors".

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If you want to make someone feel uncomfortable, stare into the middle of their forehead while talking to them. Most people say it makes them feel like they're being interrogated, which, of course, isn't very relaxing.

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If someone you're talking to is trying to avoid answering your question, pause for a moment while speaking and continue to look the person in the eye. The person will feel uncomfortable and keep talking, increasing the chances of you getting an answer to the question. If the person has been lying up until then, they will probably start telling the truth because they will feel that your silent look means you already know the truth.

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If you have started working in a new work environment or started a new school, and you want to like your colleagues, ask them to explain something to you. Whether you know the answer or not, it will improve the person's relationship with you.

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To get a positive response or reaction, gently nod your head while expressing your desire or asking a question. This is often used by waiters in restaurants when they want guests to order more food and is quite effective.

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If the person is busy with something, say a phone conversation, you can take something that is in their hand at that moment and they probably won't even remember it. The reverse is also true, at the moment of concentration on something else, you can give the person something in their hands. They won't even notice.

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If you want someone to do something for you, casually mention that the person probably won't be able to do it. When it comes to doubting their abilities, most people will go out of their way to prove you wrong. Or you can ask the person for a small favor before moving on to the main request. In this way, you will establish a good relationship with the person and they will not reject you.

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Just like with questions to which you are trying to get positive answers, if you want the interlocutor to listen carefully, nod your head slightly while you speak.

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If you're negotiating a job and you like the offer you got, but you want to close the deal on more favorable terms for you, pretend you're a little disappointed. This works like a charm when it comes to high cost or low pay.

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When you wake up, sit on your bed, make your fists, throw your hands in the air and say out loud, "Yes!" as if you were a soccer player who just scored a goal. This will help you start the day fresh and with more energy.

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If you're always worried about whether you've locked the door or turned off the iron, say an unusual phrase while you do it. The phrase can be different every day. You can say "Green Rabbit" while turning off the iron or locking the door. The next time you start to wonder if you did something or not, you'll remember that you said that funny phrase.

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When someone tries to drag you into an argument or drama, say something nice to that person. This will confuse her and stop her negative energy. Another way is to keep your cool and stay quiet. Nothing irritates more than being ignored. And if you're trying to avoid an argument with your partner or friend, try to put yourself in their shoes. This will help you understand each other better.

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If there is one person in your work group who is lazy and slows down the work of the whole group, do not give him tasks with the words "Do that", but "Start with this..." Psychologically, he will feel that he has less work to do and will start with something smaller . When she completes the first task, tell her, “Very good! Now get on with this”.

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If you have to give a lecture or a speech, don't forget to take a bottle of water with you. You'll need it because your mouth will probably be dry with excitement. Plus, if you can't remember a part of the speech, you'll give yourself time to remember while taking a sip of water, and the audience won't notice. If you feel a lot of nervousness before a public performance, admit it to the audience right away. It improves your mood, calms you down and makes your listeners more empathetic because most of them probably know how you feel.

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If someone is staring at you on public transport, look at that person's shoes and don't give up, keep looking. That will confuse her.

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If you start worrying every time you see someone you know, that person will start worrying every time they see you. You know best how this information can benefit you.

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If someone did something to you that you didn't like, but you don't want to accuse, change the way you put the sentences together. For example, instead of saying, "You didn't close the window before you left!" you can say: "The window stayed open all night". The person will learn something from their mistake, and you won't come across as critical.

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If you haven't had a good night's sleep, tell yourself that you have. That sounds unusual, but it really works if you say it with feeling. Scientists from the University of Colorado published a study in the Journal of Experimental Psychology that showed that if you honestly believe you are well rested, even if you are not, the brain functions better.

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People remember better what happened at the beginning and end of the day, and everything in between they remember a little less well. That's good to know when it comes to a job interview. Choose an appointment at the very beginning of the working day or at the end. That way the employer will remember you better.