Fairy tales or myths about romantic love are embedded in our collective consciousness. On some level, we all still believe in fairytale versions of love.
However, these myths can actually derail you from finding the love of your life. Why? Because living in delusion cannot bring you primal love and lasting happiness, only the real truth can help you do that.
Myth 1: We blindly believe that only our partner is the source of pure and eternal love
The belief that only another person can be a source of love is so great that it is usually not questioned. We "seek love" and "find love" in others. However, that is just a myth.
The truth is that an inexhaustible source of love exists within ourselves. Each of us has all the love we need, right at the core of our being. That is what the greatest truth is. When we find the source of love within ourselves, we can endlessly share it with others.
Yet we always somehow fail to discover it, because we are desperately looking for love elsewhere.
Myth 2: We believe that love and passion should always be the same as at the beginning of a relationship
When we fall in love we think it will last forever. It certainly seems to us that they will! There is a timeless, eternal quality to that special love that we feel then. However, for almost everyone, the initial glow of falling in love fades over time and fades or deepens into a more mature love.
Often, when this experience ends, we believe that the love is gone, or that we are with the wrong person. It is true that the experience of falling in love is a temporary state that only opens up the possibility of seeing the essence that we both have within us, i.e. true love.
If you have realized this truth, then you can always have access to love that will never fade.
Myth 3: Romantic love will fulfill all unsatisfied needs and provide us with endless happiness
Today, people expect too much from intimate relationships. Throughout most of human history, romantic relationships did not even exist. We now place too much importance and have high expectations on this type of relationship.
The truth is that although we can be happy with our partner, no one but ourselves is the source of happiness for us. Just like with love, happiness is an inside job. If you are not in touch with the source of joy within yourself, you will not find it outside of yourself either. No matter how wonderful your partner is, there will still be a feeling of missing something, because you are not connected to the inner source of happiness.
These myths involve focusing on external sources of love, happiness and fulfillment.
The real question we have to ask ourselves is, do we want what is real and true or do we want fantasy?
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