A connection between two people results in different amounts of looking and eye contact, individual variations are large. Friends make less eye contact than strangers. However, if two people are in love, looking and especially eye contact is much more common than in any other social relationship.
The eyes reveal to us how a person's mind works. The direction in which the eyes look indicates access to memory or the creation of images, sounds or feelings. Only when you meet another person ¨face to face¨ is the real foundation of communication created. While some people make us feel very comfortable talking to them, others can make us uncomfortable and even distrustful. It especially depends on how long they look at us or hold our gaze while speaking.
When a person has dishonorable intentions or is hiding something from us, his eyes meet ours less than a third of the total time spent. If a person's gaze meets yours more than two-thirds of the time, it can only mean two things: first, he or she thinks you're interesting, in which case the gaze will be accompanied by dilated pupils. Second, he or she is hostile towards you and may choose to challenge you, in which case the pupils will constrict.
What to look at?
The people who irritate us the most when we deal with them are the ones who close their eyes in conversation
We are all uncomfortable with a person who avoids our gaze. When such a person speaks, we feel that he is not sure of what he is saying or maybe he is even telling us some untruth. When a person who avoids eye contact is the listener, it seems to us that they are not interested in what we want to say.
That's why, when we are in the role of a listener, we must regularly look into the interlocutor's eyes continuously for about five seconds. If it is difficult for you to look into the eyes, then simply look at a point between the interlocutor's eyes. From any distance, except for very close proximity, the interlocutor will not notice that you are not looking him straight in the eye.
Business view
If our gaze is focused around the triangle that forms the speaker's eyes and mouth, such a gaze shows that we are talking to each other on an official basis. It's a business view.
Social view
A sideways glance is given to express interest or hostility
An intimate view
If our gaze wanders over the interlocutor's entire body, we measure him from "head to toe", aware that with such a glance we send a completely different message. In a face-to-face conversation, it can mean to the interlocutor that you are not comfortable with his presence or that you want him to finish the story or leave if your gaze is focused on the center of his forehead.
Side view
A sideways glance is given to express interest or hostility. When accompanied by a slightly raised eyebrow or smile, it expresses interest and often means an invitation to courtship. If accompanied by lowered or furrowed brows or drooping corners of the lips, it indicates a suspicious, hostile or critical mood.
Eyes closed
The people who irritate us the most when we deal with them are the ones who close their eyes in conversation. This movement appears unconsciously and is an attempt to remove you from her sight, because she has become bored or you are uninteresting to her or she feels that she is superior.
Compared to the normal 6 to 8 blinks per minute of conversation, the eyelids close and stay that way for a second or two, as if the person is momentarily erasing you from their thoughts. The final block is when they keep their eyes closed and sleep, but this rarely happens in face-to-face encounters.
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