There are many situations in which we can recognize stage fright.
Whether it is in the private or business world, nervousness is an integral part of life.
Some had nervousness before every control task during elementary and high school education, some others have it while they are waiting for a university exam, others before a job interview, we also have it on the first day of work at the company or before the first romantic date.
Every time we judge that an event is very important for us, we can feel nervous.
In everyday business life, of course, depending on the job description we have within our workplace, jitters are simplified, mostly related to (public) performances and/or public presentations and/or audiences.
Anxiety is actually an expression of fear that we will not be able to present ourselves the way we want.
An expression of fear of the unknown, caused by inexperience, or fear of oneself, caused by too high an expectation of oneself.
Precisely for this reason, and in order to overcome stage fright, it is very important to look at oneself objectively and have realistic pictures of oneself.
What is called "realistic self-image" in psychology is actually a realistic perception of one's abilities, possibilities and limitations.
An ideal self-image is what each individual strives for, i.e. what he would like to be and both are closely related to the emergence of stage fright.
The image we have of ourselves, that is. the way we perceive ourselves largely determines our behavior.
The appearance of stage fright can occur when the real image is replaced by an ideal one and when we perform in front of a group with a masked image of ourselves or find ourselves in a situation where we are expected to be much more than what we actually are.
It is undeniable that a number of people will feel nervous every time they find themselves in a new, very important situation for them, especially if they are in situations that require efforts to present themselves in the best possible light.
With some third stage fright, it will appear in those situations that necessarily involve exposure to the views, criticism or judgment of other people.
The question that everyone should ask is "why is this so?".
The need to please others is in human nature.
Every time we want to be liked by others, we want to present ourselves in the best possible light, and when we are afraid of how others will evaluate us, the emergence of stage fright is an event that will necessarily follow as a result of worrying about the outcome of the event that we have to go through. .
The basis of stage fright lies right here!
Having the need to please others and presenting what we really are not is a consequence of stage fright (if we exclude ignorance and/or unpreparedness when it comes to presenting certain content).
If we are in a situation that does not require us to present ourselves in the best possible light (such situations are situations in the circles of friends, colleagues we know or situations where it is not important to us how others will evaluate us), nervousness is something that will be imperceptible, because the possibility of rejection by others is reduced, or the possibility of rejection is not important to us.
Therefore, if we harmonize as much as possible our possibilities with what we want to "present", we reduce the possibility of negative emotional experiences, which in this case are connected with stage fright. You simply need to lower your expectations of yourself.
To accept ourselves as we are, as a human being that is not perfect, nor should it be, nor can it be.
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