Have you ever thought that because you ate cake, broke your diet, you will never be able to get slim? Did you think that because you weren't promoted at work, you were destined to fail?
You are not alone. Even the greatest optimists are not immune to negative thoughts. Sometimes the destructive nature of doubt can be fatal.
Psychologists now believe that just feeling confused can cause physical reactions (redness) so that destructive thoughts can lead to illness, weight gain, skin problems.
Psychiatrist Dr. Danijel Amen examined how thoughts affect a child's appearance, energy, and success. The study showed that by turning negative thoughts into positive ones, we can change our life for the better.
Negative thoughts affect appearance and energy
In the book "Change your brain, change your body", Dr. Amen identifies automatic negative thoughts - ANM, which he describes as voices that tell us: you are not good enough, you are not thin enough, you are not a good daughter, a good husband, a student...
It is possible to develop techniques that counteract ANM, which stop the errors and prevent their return. The brain is a powerful organ. If you see yourself as fat, wrinkled, forgetful, the production of stress hormones can increase, which affects health, weight, and thinking. Negative thoughts can cause bad things to happen.
Develop a strategy in your brain to destroy ANM. When you are upset, frustrated, write your negative thoughts, then write the correct thoughts and get rid of the negative ones.
Choose not to listen to negative thoughts. If you do this, your thoughts will cause your body to change and look the way you always wanted. Your body follows your brain. It has no choice.
Here are some of the thoughts that can make your life miserable :
1. All or nothing:
This black and white thinking leads you to believe that everything is either good or bad. It is completely wrong to think that if we missed a day of training, it means that we are just undisciplined. ANM- "Always", "Never", "Every time" and "Every" If you say "I will never lose weight" you act as if you have lost control over yourself.
Correct je: that if you make one mistake it does not mean that you should give up. It is correct to never say never - put aside generalizations.
2. Focusing on the negative
Negative thoughts will lead you to give up faster.
It is correct: try to make a positive analysis and improve your mood. 3. Thinking with feelings
When you assume that your feeling about something is correct, you don't hesitate.
Correct je: think with logic - look for evidence to support or challenge your views.
4. Guilt
Using words like "should" and "must" always lead to feelings of guilt and loss of control.
Correct je: Avoid feeling guilty. Do what you can but not to the detriment of your health and use the word "must" only when it suits you.
5. Labeling
If you label yourself as a loser, you give up control and start believing negative thoughts. This giving up attitude means that you will easily give up on your intentions.
Correct is: Avoid labeling and for a change say “I'm not loser" 6. Belief in fate
Predicting worst-case scenarios even if we don't know what will happen. These thoughts are very common and very quickly dominate our mind. These thoughts are so strong that they can cause bad things to happen to you.
It is correct: to wonder if you have the right to tell fortunes. You don't know how events will unfold in the future. Be open to the future in a positive way.
7. Mind reading
When you think you know what someone is thinking like e.g. "he was looking at my stomach, he must think I'm fat"
Correct je: You can't know what other people are thinking. When someone is watching you, it doesn't mean they are judging you.
8. Blaming others
It is toxic to blame others and shift the responsibility onto them for your own failures and mistakes. When you start with the sentence you are to blame, you spoil your life and perceive yourself as a victim.
It is correct: You are responsible for the course of your life. You can't blame the others
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