Arguments are a normal occurrence in any relationship and marriage, but the topic of the argument can hide much deeper problems that should be addressed immediately.
1. Money
If every argument you have is about money, you probably want different things out of life.
- According to my experience, people think they are fighting because of a lack of money, but in most cases they are actually fighting because of differences in values - psychotherapist Kimberly Moffitt told Prevention. Both of you think about your priorities and then discuss your short and long term plans. You may realize that you want to save for different things, or you may find that you have a common goal to shape your financial situation. Keep in mind that not wanting the same things right now won't necessarily cause the relationship to crash.
As long as you understand each other and respect each other's goals or ambitions, any problem can be solved with compromise. However, if you're thinking about taking out a home loan and your partner wants a motorbike, it might really be time to think about where your relationship is headed.
2. Housework
This is one of the most common arguments in any relationship. Many women take on most of the responsibilities related to the house and cannot force their partners to start working. In the beginning of the relationship, this may not cause big problems, but after a while, nervousness and resentment arise for a reason.
If you've asked your partner a hundred times to pick up the laundry, wash the dishes, or pick up the crumbs he left on the kitchen table, and he hasn't done it even once, it looks like you're in a relationship with a person who doesn't respect you or your time at all. Be decisive and look for a proper division of household chores.
A man who loves you will accept this without question and will work on getting rid of the bad habit of sitting on the couch while you vacuum and dust around him. In a relationship, both of you should be equal in every way, including when it comes to household chores. If he still stubbornly refuses to help, explain to him that you will not be a servant to someone who does not appreciate and does not deserve it.
3. Family
Psychotherapist Jane Greer says that arguments about family members actually indicate that one partner does not feel important enough in the relationship. For example, if your partner resents the fact that you see your family members regularly, and you see his family members a couple of times a year, deep down he thinks that he is not really a priority for you. Try to find a balance in spending time with your family and his family. If your families get along, plan more frequent get-togethers. In the case of an unsettled situation where you simply do not understand each other well in the family circle, openly discuss what bothers you about certain members and why you are uncomfortable in their company.
You must not sweep these problems under the carpet and avoid discussing them because you will only deepen them further.
4. Sex
Arguments related to the most intimate moments can arise for numerous reasons. Regardless of the reason, the root of every such argument is a lack of communication, which indicates that you are not in a relationship where you openly discuss everything and are not ready to clearly express your own desires.
Do not discuss problems related to your sex life before, during or after intercourse. This could cause you or your partner to become defensive or feel embarrassed and ashamed, and you don't want that at all. Sex is an important topic that deserves your attention during serious everyday conversations, not just a passing topic that you will talk about briefly after intercourse.
Remember that for a good sex life that will satisfy you completely, it's not important poses or technique, but absolute honesty and trust. Talk openly with your partner about your desires. If you want to explain to him what you don't like in bed, do it in a diplomatic way and tell him that you still prefer something else and that he drives you crazy with those moves, reports Avaz.
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