What do you most often argue with your partner about? It's not the same whether you're arguing about chores or sex and money. Relationship experts say that if the cause is always the same stumbling block, it should be broken down and interpreted because it tells us something.
Every reason for a love fight says something about the relationship, but couples often ignore it. Based on what theorists of emotional relationships claim, four reasons have been singled out as the most dominant and there is an interpretation for each of them.
* House works
It is almost natural that men and women differ when it comes to the attitude towards the hygiene of the common space. It bothers girls when their partners nonchalantly leave socks or laundry wherever they think of it, and at least once a week they blame them for not washing the dishes or making the bed.
The commonality of arguments over household chores does not have to be a signal that something more serious is lurking behind the hill, but experts say that if at one point they develop into a chronic condition, the devil has taken the joke. A persistent argument over plates and scattered T-shirts is an indication that emotions are on the wane and that their end is being masked with the story of a mess in the house.
Try to have an open conversation with your partner on the subject and determine if they are really "stuck" on the division of work or love.
* Sexual misunderstandings
When married couples argue because they have less and less sex or because one of them has too little and the other too much intimacy in the bedroom, the first light that could turn on is - a breakdown in communication. Partners have stopped listening to each other, they don't talk qualitatively or quantitatively, and this then reflects on their sex life.
In order for cheating not to be imposed as a solution, experts advise you to be brave and direct, so that you tell your partner that you are aware of the problem and that you need to solve it, rather than ignoring it and blocking your needs, channeling them through discussion. Or adultery.
* Lack of money
Every couple, sooner or later, faces financial problems. Sometimes it's a serious financial crash, sometimes it's a normal struggle for everyday life. But if it starts to look like a phase that has passed, and the couples are still in conflict and impose money as a constant topic and reason for being in a bad mood, it means that there is a conflict over the system of values and goals. The main cause of the quarrel is actually a different view of life and a mismatch of desires and expectations, and the only way out of the impasse is - an honest conversation.
If the attempt to compromise fails, it is wiser to choose a separation, because money cannot solve essential problems.
* Family relations
Spouses sometimes disagree about their relationship to the family - one of them needs to hear from mom and dad every day, to go to them on weekends and consult about making important decisions, while the other feels that all this is superfluous.
A compromise can be made here too, but if one of the partners starts to use it as an argument in the discussion that he is less loved and appreciated than his parents, then it means that he actually feels neglected regardless of the visits to mom and dad. It is very possible that he is saying that he needs more attention and tenderness, which does not have to be a bad thing. It is only important that the partner listens to his needs and understands these transfers as a desire to spend as much time as possible together, reports Novosti.
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