Times are changing and today we expect much more from relationships, and we often ask our partners for some almost impossible things. Due to increasing needs, demands and desires, conflicts arise more and more often in relationships, which, if not resolved in time, can lead to problems that will eventually result in a break-up or divorce. It is no wonder that today every third marriage ends in divorce.
Discussions about certain topics on which you and your partner differ in opinion are never pleasant for either party, but with a little care you can make them much more pleasant and less heated. Relationship counselor and psychotherapist Teri Orbuk reveals some very important tips on how to deal with conflicts in marriage…
Choose your words carefully
While having a conversation with your partner, if you don't want an argument, you should choose your words carefully. Namely, often when we are in the middle of a heated discussion we say something for which we regret later. So think carefully about everything you say when you talk to your partner about serious topics and avoid using words like "always" or "never". With such irrefutable words, you lead your partner to a hopeless situation in which he will just withdraw or be even more annoyed.
Commit to solving the problem
The next time you want to talk to your partner about something that's bothering you, start the conversation over the phone, email or text. Tell him what you want to talk about and how you feel about it. Then ask him if after he gets home or another day of the week you can talk about what's bothering you. In this way, he will prepare for the conversation and have time to think about everything, so the discussion will certainly not be as lively as it probably would be if you caught him unprepared for such conversations.
Don't air your arguments in the bedroom
Conflicts in the bedroom, especially before bed, should definitely be avoided, so keep that in mind and don't start serious conversations with your partner while you're in bed. Your bedroom should be a neutral zone. If you want to have reconciliation sex, just say that you are sorry or that you will make an effort about your behavior, reports Žena.rtl.
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