Everyday life challenges are processed by each of us in a unique way. No one has the same capacity to deal with work, family, finances, career, emotions. Some people are more stable, while others are much more vulnerable, sensitive and without real emotional support for all the challenges of life.
Let's imagine a person who as a young person had to leave home "with bread in his belly", who could not get an education because his parents could not pay for it. Let's imagine that one of the parents was prone to alcohol and even aggressive. What kind of atmosphere did that child grow up in, what messages did he bring to life? With what beliefs does he start his adventure of life? The world is a dangerous place, I have no support, I am alone, nothing and nowhere is safe, these are just some of the possible beliefs.
On top of that comes a hard and poorly paid job, a wife and children, a boss who doesn't understand me, a small salary.
He starts with one beer, maybe two, three...
The discomfort in the body and in the head is solved by our imagined man with alcohol, which, at least for a short time, drives away the pressure he is not up to, drives away the gloomy setting of life for which the man has neither the strength nor the support to change.
In one of the conversations, the late psychiatrist Dr. Robert Torre said several times earlier that growing up in poverty and alcoholism is the strongest trigger for various mental illnesses and disorders. Children from such families grow up to be vulnerable people who have a hard time coping with life.
We don't all react the same way
Of course, now we will all remember examples where people did great things even though they came from poor or aggressive families. There are some like that, but this means that when they were growing up, there was still support from their mother, grandmother, father, or some of the people who took care of them. This also means that they themselves had a stronger structure and emotional basis to cope with life.
Some people will falter when faced with a problem, others will pretend the problem doesn't exist, and still others will "attack" and come up with a solution. It depends on the character structure, on the emotional predispositions and the personality that is built by growing up.
We don't all react the same, but it's important not to judge those who falter. Not even those who do harm. There are deep reasons for their actions and they definitely need medical help along with the sanction.
It is up to society at all levels to notice such examples and provide them with help.
Life with a mental illness is not easy at all, and it is the same with mental disorders. Not understanding yourself, but also not understanding the circumstances and the people around you, causes deep shame and discomfort in sick people, even in those brief lucid states.
"There is nothing romantic about madness, regardless of the diagnosis. It is a place of deep pain and suffering," said Dr. Robert Tore, trying to portray the world in which mentally ill people live.
That is why it is important to recognize signs of illness or disorders in oneself or in close people and try to find a way to help them, he writes i live.hr.
Every time we feel that something is too much for us, when we lose our temper, when we "snap" in traffic, at our partner, children, boss... let's stop and ask ourselves what exactly we are shooting at. To what emotion, to what memory, to what feeling. It is the beginning of observing and understanding yourself, but also the first step in taking care of your mental health.
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