Mothers often feel anger towards their children, but it is very difficult for them to admit it. However, by 'pushing' them to the limit, children can really anger their parents.
According to psychotherapist Crystal Hayes, these are the six biggest triggers of anger in mothers - from running to school to arguments over meals... Yet, many mothers are embarrassed to admit that their child has caused them to be angry, reports N1.
"Many mothers feel anger, but no one likes to talk about it. Mothers shouldn't be angry, and when they are angry, they are often ashamed. However, all mothers have experienced moments of anger, which makes them feel overwhelmed, unsupported and tired," says Hayes, adding that mothers are under a lot of stress juggling too many things, from insufficient sleep to a lack of proper support, writes The Sun.
It is time to sleep
Delaying tactics, such as requests for drinks and bedtime stories, can drive parents crazy. The time after children go to bed is when parents are resting and preparing for the next day, so when children intrude on this precious time, it can cause a problem.
To keep your composure, never start a bath or reading a story when you're hungry, thirsty, or tired. Parenting is a marathon, so find some time to rest during the day so you can be as calm as possible right before bed. That way, you have enough energy for that final push.
Quarrels between brothers and sisters
Verbal and physical arguments between siblings can be big triggers for parents who want their children to be best friends.
Remind yourself sometimes that siblings who disagree are actually setting boundaries for each other that they will use as they navigate through life.
Intervene only when there is a risk of harm. Calm the situation by speaking slowly and softly and talking about boundaries.
Sensory overload
Entering a messy room, the noise of the television, children asking for snacks, and the beeping of the washing machine can be triggers for parental anger.
Clutter and too much noise can make parents feel anxious and out of control. Instead of tackling the entire house and risking feeling overwhelmed, try making one room a calm and orderly space to go to when you start to feel overwhelmed.
Lower your expectations and break larger tasks into small achievable tasks.
Running to school
Although you don't want to be late, you don't have complete control over the time because there are situations like crowds, children's cooperation before departure, or if your newborn needs a last-minute diaper change.
All of this is very stressful. To keep your spirits up, take some time in the morning, play some relaxing music in the car, and do your best to reduce that pressure.
Screen time
There is a lot of conflicting information out there about how much screen time children should be allowed. For parents, this is confusing territory, and one that often causes stress.
Refusing children to turn off technology during mealtimes, as well as prohibiting them from approaching the table, can cause a power struggle.
The key here is consistency and setting boundaries up front, with consequences if children refuse to listen.
Meal time
Food can easily become a battleground with kids, especially for moms who want their kids to eat healthy. It can escalate beyond food and become a power struggle. To keep your cool, think back to your childhood experiences at mealtimes—what you liked and didn't like as a kid.
You need to have the support of your partner. Also, some children eat better around their grandparents, so make mealtime a social event by having everyone sit at the table at mealtime.
The more relaxed you are and the more consistent your boundaries are, the less stubborn your children will be, reports 24 sata.hr.
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