You've gone out a few times, things are getting more intense and you're wondering what he's going to be like in bed. Sex therapist Dr. Laura Berman, author of "The Book of Love", has deciphered some of the most common types of behavior by which you can predict the sexual habits of a "fresh" partner.
It is addicted to 'tapping'
A good sign is that he's probably good with his hands, but if his cell phone is constantly between the two of you, that could be a problem. More connection to the phone means less connection to you, says therapist Berman. "There is an epidemic of mild addiction to technology that absolutely interferes with intimacy. The more time your loved one spends sending SMS and similar messages, the less he will communicate with you. If he is always distracted by the virtual world, he will not really enjoy sex," said Berman.
Metrosexual
Your loved one uses hair gel, serum for the skin under the eyes, night cream, day cream, lotions for body care... It seems to you that there are more bottles in the bathroom than you. "If he's always beautifying himself, he may come across as more sexually oriented toward himself than toward you," says therapist Laura Berman. This is the type of man who likes to look at himself in the mirror instead of looking at you during sex.
Of course, it is not necessarily the case that every man who pays attention to his appearance pays less attention to his partner in bed, however, take this sign as a good warning.
He refuses to share the meal
Sharing meals and feeding together can be a sensual and erotic experience, but if he's not willing to share a bite with you, he may be less inclined to give you pleasure in other situations.
"He won't give much in the bedroom, he's more interested in being the one who gets," claims the relationship expert.
Watch your wallet
Pay close attention to whether you leave a tip to the waiter when you eat in a restaurant and whether he is ready to pay the bill. If he is stingy when it comes to money, he may be stingy in other areas as well. Equally, watch out for careless splurge types who won't even blink and spend half their salary on gambling. "It's a sign of irresponsibility, and that person is possibly careless about sexual protection," warned Berman.
He does not like to experiment
There's no way you can persuade him to have dinner at a Mexican restaurant, he doesn't really like Chinese food, and he'd rather have pizza, hamburger or kebabs for any meal - "real man food".
If your loved one isn't inclined to explore the culinary traditions of other countries, it's possible that trying new things in the bedroom won't appeal to them either. He is possibly inflexible when it comes to positions, and from the thought that you would like to "baptize" every room of your apartment, and maybe even the balcony, he would prefer to run away with his head regardless.
"If experimenting with foods outside of his comfort zone, or giving the initiative to you, challenges his masculinity, expect him to be missionary and dominant in bed," says Laura Berman.
Privacy first
Couples kissing on the street are sleazy to most passers-by, but what's wrong with holding hands? Men who can't openly show their feelings could prove problematic in the bedroom.
"He may be less in touch with his body, and making physical contact makes him uncomfortable. His attitude can hurt your romance—he's not going to be a very sensual lover," noted sex therapist Berman.
If you disagree with Dr. Laura Berman's observations, you can discuss it by making an appointment with her: appointments@lauraberman.com
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