The last two years have been very unpredictable and full of trials and tribulations. All couples who have stayed together can be proud, and to improve your relationship, here are some of the best love tips.
Show gratitude to each other every day
A strong practice of appreciation in relationships is a great way to ward off resentment and criticism. Expressing gratitude to your partner every day will create a reserve of generosity and trust, which will serve during the inevitable moments of conflict, explains Jordan Dann, a licensed psychoanalyst, reports 24sata.hr.
Find a balance between connectivity and autonomy
Two important things are autonomy (control of individuality) and attachment. Healthy maturation means that we are able to achieve both and balance them. This ability is called differentiation. Differentiation is a biological process that occurs in all species. When it comes to people, it means becoming a solid person through relationships with others. It's the ability to separate ourselves from others, says licensed psychoanalyst Jordan Dann.
Yes, there are times when you can be friends with your ex, but not always
Being friends with an ex can be a good idea when other aspects of the relationship were valuable to your growth, development, or life goals. If you and your ex find that you are better business partners or friends and are able to maintain healthy boundaries with each other, then a friendship could work. If you find that you can't maintain a healthy relationship with each other, you should end all ties, according to Weena Cullins, a marriage therapist.
Stop worrying about how much sex you have
The point of sex is to share pleasure with your partner and feel connected. Spend intimate time together, without pressure to achieve a goal or do a certain thing. You don't need a plan. Be inspired in the moment and do what you want, says Jessa Zimmerman, sex therapist.
Get to know yourself
The problem with conflict resolutions is that they lack awareness of what is actually happening to you and your partner in the present. During a conflict, start paying attention at all times when you are talking to your partner. Notice your feelings of openness or closure, advises Kathryn Ford, a licensed psychotherapist.
Understand the difference between love and limerence
Love is rooted in connection, intimacy, reciprocity and reality, while limerence is rooted in possessiveness, obsession, jealousy and delusions, says Silva Depanian, marriage and family therapist.
Free yourself from addiction
Release from attachment requires a willingness to tolerate the unknown and live with uncertainty. Part of what keeps a codependent relationship going is the fear of disappointing someone whose opinion you care about. You simply need to learn that sometimes you can disappoint others in order to be freer to be who you are, says Alicia Muñoz, therapist.
Stay curious
Instead of looking for what you know, look for something in your partner that is different in some way and continue dating, advises Samantha Boardman, psychiatrist, writes mbg.
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