All couples encounter difficulties from time to time when it comes to intimacy and sexual relations. Sometimes the reason is daily responsibilities, taking care of children, and sometimes they can simply fall into a rut. However, there is a simple rule that could prevent this. Research has shown that kissing for just six seconds a day can keep passion alive in your marriage or relationship.
Couples often neglect kissing and use it more as a way of greeting their other half, and it can be the key to everything.
dr. John Gottman, professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Washington and author of the popular self-help book Seven Principles for a Successful Marriage, emphasizes that couples should kiss long enough to create a sense of romance. His theory is that a six-second kiss acts as a "temporary oasis" during a busy day and can lead to maintaining a healthy relationship in the long run.
"Don't leave the house without a kiss that lasts at least six seconds, and when you see each other again at the end of the workday, greet your spouse with such a kiss again, to create a loving transition into togetherness," explained Dr. Gottman.
While this may seem a bit unbelievable to some, Dr. Gottman's advice actually comes with some scientific evidence. Apparently, kissing lowers cortisol (the stress hormone) and increases oxytocin (the bonding hormone) as well as dopamine (the happiness hormone).
Anthropologist Helen Fisher also claims that kissing leads to a stronger libido, which can never be considered a bad thing.
According to Dr. Gottman, the six-second trick can benefit couples in the following ways:
- It helps to strengthen the connection
- Encourages physical touch
- It can help develop affection
- Partners value each other more
- If things go well, you can continue hanging out in the bedroom
- It can be very soothing
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