It is important to recognize the subtle signs that indicate that your sex life is not good, so that you can find a solution as soon as possible.
Signs that your sex life is in crisis:
The same person initiates sex: A common symptom that something is wrong with the sexual life of a couple is when one person always initiates sexual relations and feels unwanted.
"Most people want their partners to initiate sex equally, this gives them the impression that their partner still wants them," says Dr. Jess O'Reilly. If one partner always initiates sex, try to talk and make the problem loud and clear, as you would like to balance it out.
You didn't say what you wanted: Surely you know that no one can read other people's thoughts, and we are all different. It's hard for your partner to know what you want, Jess claims. If you haven't talked about what you want, you probably aren't getting it. If the thought of criticizing your partner's lovemaking skills scares you, remember that how you approach it is key. After you say your wishes, you will surely notice a big difference in sex, writes Večernji.hr
You always do the same: Once couples figure out what works for them, they often stick to it like a 'drunken plot.' For this reason, the passion and tendency to experiment with new things disappears. However, "repetition can reduce pleasure. Research shows that dopamine can be twice as high when things are unpredictable," Jess adds. Be open to new poses, sex toys, and experimenting under the covers. That way you will learn along the way what suits you.
You don't talk after sex: Sex should bring partners closer. If after making love you feel 'distant' from your partner, and there is silence in the room - maybe you are not open to each other, explains sex therapist Marisa Nelson. Try to initiate a conversation. If you feel blocked, be honest with your partner and don't feel like you have to hide it.
You want different things: For example, one person wants passion and relief from stress, while another sees the point of sex in emotional rapprochement and connection.
"When this happens a person can feel bad and unsatisfied after not getting what they want to feel during love making for a long time," says Nelson.
Everything is "to blame" for one person: In order to have a healthy sex life, both people in the relationship must feel that the responsibility is shared. If you can't climax, if you feel pain or are not satisfied - that's both people's problem. A symptom that something is wrong is when the blame starts shifting to one side only. It is important that you recognize the situation and ask yourself what you can work on together. Dialogue is an extremely important part of the sexual experience.
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