Sex should not be taboo, but it should be discussed honestly and openly with your partner. But, unfortunately, many find excuses for 'skipping sex'. Guess which one is the most common…
It is not for nothing that passion should always be simmering. Sex is an important part of a relationship for most. It is not good when the relationship 'revolves' only around the bed, but the problem also arises when there is a 'dry period'. A lack of intimacy - which includes the absence of gentle touches, hugs, kisses - is usually a clear sign that something has gone wrong. Skirmishes happen, but frustration also builds up. Some would say that then two people become roommates.
Therefore, despite the obligations, the couple should strive to spend quality time, express love and devote themselves to each other. Intimacy is not created exclusively through sex.
It's okay if you don't
Sexual desire is affected by many factors - from stress to some medical conditions. It's clear that people often don't feel like sex. Probably, women are more 'heated' during their fertile days or right before their period, while sometimes they don't really feel like it - and that's perfectly fine.
Then the couple should have an honest conversation. The conversation about sex must be open, honest and clear. That's the only way we can express how we feel, if we want to improve something..., simply, say how things are. A partner in a healthy relationship should be understanding. But in everyday life it is often different.
One side subtly 'forces' sexual intercourse, while the other side is not very willing. Instead of two adults having an open discussion about their sex life and feelings, women continue to come up with all kinds of excuses as to why they're not having it right now.
Universal excuses
Woman.hr writes about a British study that revealed the ten most common excuses for avoiding sex. According to him, one in five British couples report that they often make excuses. Their most common excuse is - you guessed it - a headache.
This is followed by the excuse: Tired/alone (although it has been scientifically proven that orgasm guarantees better sleep). In addition, not every sexual relationship needs to be marathon and dynamic. Sometimes you can indulge in lazy poses, right?
In third place was the sentence: I'm not in the mood (without explaining why, and we remind you, conversation is crucial). Following are famous sentences like I have to get up early, the children will hear us, you should take a shower, my back hurts... Familiar?
In tenth place was the excuse that it's too early for sex because "we've only just met".
This just goes to show that couples in different countries come across almost identical excuses. Instead, you need to build trust and talk honestly about your desires, fantasies, worries, and doubts. Discuss what your boundaries are in sex, how you view certain sexual activities, and so on.
If you notice that the passion is waning, try to get closer again, spend time together and introduce some new things like sex toys. Don't leave it to chance, research what suits you. Learn to relax and love your body just the way it is. This will also increase libido.
This is the only way you can be satisfied with your sex life. And if you don't feel like it, say so. There's no point in lying or doing something you don't want to do at that moment.
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