Creating a great relationship can be one of the most exciting experiences, but the path to it can be extremely frustrating, especially if a woman keeps falling for the wrong men.
Research has shown that women who consistently choose the 'wrong' tend to make several common mistakes, reports 24sata.hr.
They think love is impossible.
Focusing on all the obstacles and what could go wrong will leave you exhausted and overwhelmed with negative emotions.
Overthinking can lead to feelings that love is impossible. To avoid disappointment, you may decide it would be easier to give up or not fully invest in the relationship, and then you will attract unserious men.
They don't go after what they really want.
When you believe that love is impossible and that the mountain is too high, you will not try to achieve what you really want. The fear that you might be happy and that love might work for you keeps you on the safe path.
Therapist Teri Gaspard explains the necessity of taking risks in love:
"Take a moment to think about it - you may be sabotaging relationship after relationship if you don't get to the root of your fear of vulnerability. If you're afraid to show weakness or expose yourself to your partner, you may not even realize that fear is preventing you from getting into a relationship. You may be blocking the opportunity for love because you're afraid to let your true self shine through."
If you go after what you want, there is a risk – the risk of heartbreak or the risk of happiness. That risk is worth it. In the end, the benefits far outweigh the risk of settling for less than what you want, so why not go all the way?
They think "living happily ever after" only applies to others
"They lived happily ever after" happens to the woman who decides she will never give up, no matter what. This is a woman who will take risks and go after what she wants. This is a woman who will get up again and again after rejection, breakups, and pain, and who will not accept the status quo, reports N1.
The universe always rewards the persistent and determined among us. Your life and your choices shape the outcome. So go out, find resources, educate yourself, and make life your reality. Believe in love and make it a reality.
Negativity is evident even when they are happy
Our problems surface even when we are happy, and the only way to avoid this is to be in a relationship with someone who is kind, considerate, and supportive. Feelings of insecurity, jealousy, or avoidance of traumatic childhood experiences can surface even when we are happy.
"When you were traumatized as a child, it stays deep inside you. You could say it gets into your bones. The memories, even if they are repressed and unconscious, are etched into your habits, relationship problems, and your low self-esteem. Many traumatized people feel like they have always been alone and do their best to figure things out on their own," explains psychologist Sandra E. Koen.
A relationship with someone we love can be a step into the unknown and a completely new experience for us, but we will never regret it. Yes, it's scary, but it's worth it. Face your problems and be with the man you want to be with, not the one who is 'easy', writes YourTango.
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