Maja and Fljamur destroy prejudices with their love

FLamur Delia - a young, beautiful guy, sings like a nightingale, modest and silent, conquers people with a good-natured smile. In the same way, the man from Nikšić also won the charming one Maja Janković, registrar from Šavnik.

And he also had something that, as he admits, particularly attracted Maja - Fljamur is Egyptian.

"I knew he was from a minority population and I have to admit that I was even more attracted to him. After we met, we first corresponded, then we started dating, and a year later we started living together. It was more than four years ago. Before we started our life together, I saw that there was no difference that I was Maja and he was Fljamur, but I also realized that he really is a member of the 'minority' - there are few people like Fljamur", says Maja proudly and with eyes wide open. looks lovingly at Fljamur who smiles shyly while holding their two-month-old daughter in his arms Fanu.

Although in Montenegro, we are, declaratively, all advocates of equality, although, again declaratively, we do not divide people by religion and nationality, research shows that young people have nothing against Roma and Egyptians being their first neighbors and friends, but not spouses. However, this was not the case with Maja, nor with her family.

"My parents live in the village of Krnja Jela, and my father once worked near the house of Fljamur's parents. He knew that it was a good and virtuous family, and then it was even easier for him when he heard that the two of us were going to live together. My parents kept saying - 'if it's good for you, it's good for us. It's your choice. If you like it and we are satisfied, just make sure you get along well'. My friends also congratulated me, my friends told me that my husband is very handsome, although I have to admit that the two of us immediately decided that we will not listen to anyone without ourselves and our hearts".

And hearts beat and beat in the same rhythm - the rhythm of love.

"Fljamur has everything - kindness, smile, charm, it seems to me that I could not have found a better husband than him".

Not even Fljamur remains "in debt" to her.

"I have never divided people into us and them. As I am a musician and I play in bars, I was mostly in contact with girls from the majority population, so my girls were also mostly from the majority population. When I met Maja, I didn't think that we belong to different communities, religions, because all people are the same and I don't see any difference. Then again, there is a difference. Maja is kind and different from all the others I have met, and she is the only one for me".

Daughter-in-law for love - the table is full even for Christmas

The Delijas are a large family - Fljamur's parents led ten of them on the right path. Unlike them, Maja only has a brother. However, it was not difficult for her to get used to such a large family. Not even Delia na Maja, who, Fljamur says with a smile, successfully opened the door to the people who came after her.

"We are seven brothers and three of us have wives from the majority population. First I got married, then my brother from Bar, and in May the wedding of the third brother will take place. As soon as my family met Maja, they immediately fell in love with her, and if you asked them whether they would like Maja as a daughter-in-law or someone else, they would say Maja. I am especially glad that Maja is also good to my parents, sisters, brothers, that she respects them all. There is an agreement for everything else. On the other hand, Maja is such a person that she accepted everything easily and it was no problem for her to fit in quickly".

Maja adds that it was not difficult for her to become a member of Deli and to fall in love with them, because they immediately accepted her.

"We, the goats, get along very well, and I also get along very well with the zaovs. Somehow we all found each other. From the first day I feel like I was born here, like I'm a daughter-in-law, not a daughter-in-law. I learned to prepare a lot of dishes from my mother-in-law, but I haven't dared to make the more difficult ones, like flija."

Fljamur admits that he had a little trepidation when he had to meet Maja's father and daughter from his first marriage, Milica, but that the meeting went well, that he told her mother that she had a fifth granddaughter, Fana, and that they couldn't wait for spring to go to Krnja Jela.

"When I got pregnant, I said that if there was a daughter, I would like her name to be Fana, after Fljamur's sister, who seems to be my sister too. And so it happened. Fana was born on December 29, and she is the third Fana in the family - her great-grandmother was also called that," says Maja.

She understands the language well, but she says that she has not yet learned to speak it, and she has mastered the traditions and customs well.

"When I came, I followed what they were doing and learned, and what I didn't understand, I asked. Nothing was difficult for me. As soon as I accepted him, I also accepted their customs and it was easy to adapt to them. After all, I knew where I was getting married."

The whole family gathers for Eid, and Fljamur adds that his mother, out of love for Maya, "prepares everything for Christmas."

"I would like people to have no prejudices and to understand that it is important to love each other and that the choice should be theirs," says Maja.

Fljamur also agreed with what was said.

"I would tell everyone not to be prejudiced, to love each other, because love is the most important thing. It's nice when young people are having fun, but it's much nicer in marriage, and we decorated our marriage with Fana, who I would like to grow up in a nice atmosphere, to be happy and successful like the aunt she's named after."