As every mother knows, taking care of children also means less sleep and constant fatigue: the fact is that motherhood brings a continuous hunger for good sleep and sleep. Experts say that sacrificing sleep for a little good old fashioned sex can save a relationship or marriage.
Alarm clock. Walking the dog. Changing diapers. Making the bed. Breakfast. Dress up and makeup. Getting ready for kindergarten/school. Driving to school. Traffic jams. Work. A meeting. Getting groceries for lunch. Cooking lunch. Clothes washing...
And it's only halfway through the day.
Some crowded day scenarios are even more intense.
Sleeping and getting enough sleep really sometimes sounds and feels like an impossible mission.
With such a chaotic schedule, the first casualty in a relationship or marriage is usually sex.
It's not that you don't want it.
You want it.
But you are exhausted and the only idea that excites you is the idea of your head falling on a soft pillow, and all around you is silence, darkness and only you and your dream.
Ah, something has to get hurt, but can it be sex? Do you choose sleep over sex? Or sex anyway?
Therapists and family counselors claim that there should be no choice at all.
You can, they claim, have both in your life and live happily and fulfilled, klinfo.hr writes.
Of course, if you are sick or have just returned from the maternity ward, your body will need enough sleep to recover, restore strength and become healthy and ready for everyday life.
In such circumstances, sleep comes first.
Likewise, parents with young children may feel so exhausted and overwhelmed by the pace of the day that they are better off crawling into bed and catching up on sleep.
But, that's why maybe after two days of sleep, he will have more energy for sex. Basically, it all comes down to a healthy balance.
However, there are couples who, due to a lack of intimacy, enter their period and accept an unhealthy pattern and convince themselves that it is better to choose sleep and sleep more often than sex.
Such a pattern is not only unhealthy for the relationship of two people, but also for each person individually.
Research has shown that sex improves immunity, reduces tension, improves intimacy between two people due to the secretion of the hormone oxytocin, and last but not least - sex improves sleep and the quality of sleep in general.
That's why you shouldn't underestimate the power of good old sex, therapists say.
At what stage of marriage does sex most often "pack its bags and leave the relationship of two people"?
Is there some kind of time trap we fall into and there's no going back?
Every couple in one period of their relationship goes through a period when sex goes on a "temporary hiatus".
The cause is often stressful changes such as the arrival of a new baby or the loss of a loved one.
But, when the stress subsides, intimacy and sexual relations should "come home".
If a couple already has problems with emotional connection and intimacy, the lack of sex can contribute to an even stronger collapse of the relationship.
Since sex is one of the things that binds two people together, its complete lack can lead to the creation of an even bigger gap and a lot of unhealthy resentment.
It is precisely this resentment between couples that strikes at the very foundations of the relationship, so couples sometimes find it very difficult to find their way back to each other.
Although sex should not be a matter of planning, like going shopping or going to the gynecologist, planning it does not necessarily mean that we will have it.
The point is to find time for yourself and your partner and use that time.
And there is no better way to do that, than "a little crumpling" in bed.
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