When your ex starts sharing rumors and personal details about you, your relationship, and your relationship, it can damage your reputation and self-esteem.
If you keep silent about everything, only one side will be heard and you will be the target of condemnation, but sometimes that is the only way
"Breaking up is inherently difficult – you have to find a way to get back from 'we' to 'me', to separate your lives and heal enough to look to the future," says psychologist Dr. Jane Greer on her Shrink Wrap blog.
"But what happens when the end of a relationship is fueled by unresolved anger and, instead of bowing out gracefully and moving on, your ex allows that anger to fuel bad behavior that can damage your reputation?" she asks.
Your ex may say horrible things about you, reveal personal information, twist the truth, gossip about private mistakes made while they were together, even spread rumours.
When you find yourself in such a situation, you can't say how far that anger will go and who it will reach, and this is especially the case with celebrities who have the media at their disposal, and how they are monitored by social networks and the entire public.
"It can damage a person's integrity, and even their self-esteem," notes Dr. Greer in an article for PsychologyToday.. Once you understand the focus of the verbal attack, there are ways to live with it. Depending on who your ex is talking to and what they are saying, you can choose your course of action.
As she advises, if your ex belittles you in front of loved ones - family and friends - after the breakup, consider setting your own boundaries. For example, if a mutual friend tells you that your ex-partner is talking bad about you, immediately let him know that you do not want to hear about it and ask him not to tell you anything because it is harmful to you. Then you can go one step further and ask him to convey to him that you would like him to stop mentioning you, he conveys Glossy.
If your ex talks badly about you in front of your joint children, if they are old enough, you can explain to them that what is said is not always true and that you broke up precisely because you did not agree on certain things and that there is a lot behind everything. anger. And because of anger, people say and do horrible things.
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