Awkward: What if your partner is bad in bed?

Differences in libido can cause problems in bed, but if you like a person, it's expected that you'll want to go for it.

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The only real reason to "jump" out of bed is if the person is selfish, because the inexperienced can learn, but the selfish don't change because they don't want to. Tracy Cox, a sex therapist, says it all depends on the situation and how long you've been in the relationship.

If he happens to miscarry in bed, stay by his side and be happy because you can occasionally play teacher.

Can bad sex become good?

Some people will stick with their partner regardless of sex because their feelings are strong. If you are not so altruistic, the main questions you should ask yourself are: "Do I want to get better?" and "Does it matter to me that I'm not happy in bed?". If the answer to both questions is yes, the problem is solvable. However, there are also situations when it is better to stop immediately.

High and low libido

Giving up regular sex for a person who wants a daily routine rich in it is almost unthinkable. For such people, renunciation is like telling them not to brush their teeth every day. At the same time, people with low libido will not even notice that they have not had sex for several months.

Libido mismatch - a situation in which one partner wants sex more than the other - is one of the most common sexual problems in couples.

If you're in a serious relationship or just really like your partner, Cox advises trying to work things out. If the feelings are lukewarm, save yourself from constantly adjusting your sexual urges.

Adventurous vs. conservatively

It is ideal if your sexual styles are similar. But if that's not your case, then you need to talk. Some people think that "sex is dirty" so they never engage in it as an unprecedented adventure. It will not be an easy job. If you have the will, you will be able to solve this problem as well.

Selfish and inexperienced

If sex is bad because you lack foreplay or your partner is uninterested in your pleasure, you have to answer an important question for yourself: Is your partner indifferent to your pleasure, or is he just inexperienced? Technique can be learned. Selfish people don't want that and usually don't change.

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